“If God brings you to it, He will lead you through it.” Suburbians 3:9
It’s been a tough two weeks, everyone. If you’re like me, you’ve already started school and for some that might mean you’ve got another job on the side, a family, maybe two jobs? However you put it, it can be extremely stressful for some. Particularly, me. I’m completely aware that without change, we are stagnant. Change allows us to progress and move closer to a goal or another phase in our life.
I know myself pretty well, so when change is happening, I freak out because I start doubting myself. That was seemingly contradicting, right? I know myself but I doubt myself. Well, it takes me a while to adjust and get comfortable. In my case, with the start of the new semester, my workload seemed overwhelming. After being on summer vacation, it’s hard to go back and have to restructure my schedule. I’m still thinking to myself, “how am I going to get everything done when it’s all due at the same time?!”.
Even being away from home for so long makes me sad. I just want everyone to know that it’s okay to cry. Literally, just cry. Some may read this and think, “suck it up”; but the reality is that everyone handles situations differently.
Let me tell you, after I had a few cry sessions, I began to make sense of things. I constantly overthink a lot of situations and I know I’m not alone in this. I’m guilty of making things seem harder than they actually are; and college students can agree with me, the busy work in college isn’t always a breeze, but it is doable.
At times, it’s normal to doubt ourselves and our abilities. I do it all the time. At the same time, I also know that I’m capable once I take a breather. In the end, I always look back at how stressed out I was and wish I would have just chilled out a little. I know that taking these classes is getting me one semester closer to finishing my degree. So, after a couple of weeks, I settle into my schedule and the time flies by. Before I know it, it’s all over, I did well, and best of all I survived.
Personally, there’s really no shame in feeling anxious or stressed out about change. It happens to all of us, sometimes more frequently for some than others. We all have our own ways of coping. In my case, I talk about it with others, whether it be my mom, boyfriend, or best friend. Everyone has a difference of opinion and good input on what to do to alleviate what I’m feeling.
Another strategy is to get a planner and write in important assignments or events. This helps me break down assignments into smaller tasks or work on them by priority. Since I’m a visual person, it helps me to see it all on paper. I also have a big whiteboard that I’ll do the same with but by week.
Lastly, I ask for help when I know I need it. When I was younger, I didn’t like to ask for help unless it was absolutely necessary. Now, I understand that tasks can get done faster if someone who knows how to do them better than me can help me out.
I just want everyone who feels overwhelmed to the point of having a mental breakdown to know that you are not alone. It’s normal and we will get through it. We always do.
If you have any tips, suggestions, or comments on how to deal with change and stress, feel free to leave them below 🙂