I thought that this would be a pretty good topic to discuss at this time in my life. I’m sure many of you can relate to it whether it be a fear of spiders, heights, meeting new people, or like myself, pursuing an idea you’ve had for years. I understand it, I live it, and it’s prevented me from going for a lot because I’m afraid to fail.
If you’re anything like me, you’re not going to do anything half ass. You’re either all in or not! Perfection is also another handicap. I overthink a lot and if what I’m writing or putting out and if it isn’t up to my high standards, then I trash it.
Lately, I’ve gotten to watching more videos on strategy and just going for it. It’s hard to break free of thoughts that have ruled you for so long. If you’re into watching videos on entrepreneurship and anything business, I highly recommend searching and watching Gary Vaynerchuk on YouTube! He’s one of the reasons I finally decided to create a blog. He’s relatable on another level because he’s not trying to sound intelligent or cocky about what he does, rather he speaks to me on a more personal level. He’s not afraid to face his fears and I admire it.
I needed a kick in the butt because I can talk about my ideas all I want; but the reality is ideas are just ideas until you do something with them.
I’ve been afraid because not only do I not want to fail, but I fear that people aren’t going to like what I put out. What if I’m not pretty enough? Talented enough? What if I don’t have what it takes to succeed and I just think that I do? What if I don’t live up to what’s expected of me?
I HATE TO FAIL! But, who likes it? No one. Now here’s a cliché saying that we’ve all heard before: if you don’t fail, you won’t ever learn. You won’t ever grow. You won’t ever know if you had “it”.
The funny thing is, I’ve been criticized by others a lot and managed to build a thick skin. I did what I felt was right for me despite what others thought and without that mentality, I wouldn’t be who I am today. So why is doing this such a big deal? It’s because the internet is a much bigger world than the small town I come from.
The truth of the matter is, there are allwwaayysss going to be people that don’t like what I do or what you do. We can’t stop that. We can’t appeal to everyone. If we continue fearing what others think about our failures, then we will be forever stagnant.
What does matter is what you do and what you think about yourself. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there. No matter what step you take to move you closer to doing whatever it is that you’ve dreamt of, I hope you know that some people don’t even bother taking the first step.
I’m not saying that this is something that’s easy to get over. You might feel some anxiety. You might start a couple times and get scared. But you’ll get there eventually.
Fear is inevitable and at times good for us. It allows us to build strength and confidence when we overcome it.
There is no better time than now, my friends. If you’re in your twenties, now is the time to fail. It is time for us to dust ourselves off and shine a light on those ideas that we decided to store away in the attic of our minds. Face your fears head on, become mindful of your strengths, and capitalize on them.